Saturday, 5 March 2016

R.I.P. Mum

Mum passed away yesterday morning at 12.09 am.  She died peacefully at home after several days of attentive nursing and  full-time company from one or more loving members of her family.

Marjorie Emma Gardner, nee Kelsall
April 5th 1937 to March 4th 2016
Leaves behind her husband of 60 years, Jack, children Sue and Ian and their partners, Joe and Wendy.

Grandchildren Paul, Gordon and Bree, Elizabeth, Pete, Jack and David.

Great-grandchildren Cody, Jacob, Jessica, Olivia, Caleb, David and Charlie who is due in May.

Brother Tom and sister-in-law and brother-in-law Jessie and Alan and their families.

aged about 3years
Feeding the chickens with Tom

aged 17 yrs with her own beloved Mam

Wedding Day, October 1st, 1955

Honeymoon in London

Trying to get into the Capt Pugwash ride near Carnforth in 2008

Korea 2012
Photo bombing two of her great-grandchildren on Christmas Day, 2015
Getting her paperwork in order, February 11th, 2016
Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there; I did not die
Mary Elizabeth Fry 1932

Mum will live on in the laughter of our children.

Ian's words
Hi Guys
Ian here. My Mum, Marjorie Emma Gardner died early yesterday morning 4/3/16. She was the master of her own destiny until the end opting to die at home surrounded by family .We enlisted the help of Silver Chain- who I cannot praise enough - they provided a hospital bed so we could make Mum more comfortable, all the palliative drugs she needed (although she was of course still in a fair amount of discomfort) and lots of professionalism and compassion. Mum was first diagnosed with that bastard cancer on Xmas Eve, so it was at least over fairly quickly. Right to the very end Mum never complained once,( I think she didn't want to distress us) and she left us with the grace and dignity that she lived her life with. I'm so glad that I had the time at the end to tell her how much she meant to me and how much she was loved by her family and friends. Thanks Mum for being the best ever and Sue and I will make sure that Dad is looked after. . R.I.P. xxx

Bree's words
So its taken me a while to come up with the words to pay my respects to one of the greatest women i have ever met..
I almost feel like ive been robbed of time spent with you. In saying that it has been an honour getting to know you. You shared with me so much knowledge, intriguing stories of your past, your contagious smile, an inspiring ability to hold strength and positivity at all times and most importantly your loving heart.
In your final weeks of life u shared an experience with me that ill never forget, and with that ive learned:
- that there not enough people left on this earth quite like yourself. I only speak for myself when i say knowing you has made me a better person.
- life is cruel and unfair to those that least deserve it. As scared and sad as i felt at times, u always brought out positivity in every conversation. Your superpower was the ability to light up a room with your smile alone.
- the meaning of family. How quickly you welcomed me to be apart of yours will forever dumbfound me. Who knew i would be so lucky.
- the love and kindess people gave you was only a small expression of how much love you actually filled their hearts with.
My list could go on and on. In a nutshell, you will be dearly missed. Though we are left with a hole in our hearts, u certainly left it full of cherishable memories and love. Im sorry that my son never had the pleasure that i did to meet you, he will learn of the beautiful angel, that is you, that has his back for the rest of his life.
Rest in peace sweetheart.. always missed but never forgotten xoxo


  1. So sorry for your loss, Sue. I lost my mom just over a year ago, life is not the same. Take care of yourself. Hedy King

  2. Sue, my heart grieves for you and your family as you were all so close. You will have such wonderful memories of your mum. She sounded like a lovely lady. Thanks for showing us the photos. Big hugs.

  3. A lovely tribute to a beautiful woman Sue, may she RIP. Much love to you, Wendy

  4. A wonderful woman who will live in your family forever Sue. She has passed down values that you and brother have taken up and passed onto your children and onto the grand children. It is the way it goes. Lots of wonderful memories and don't forget to hold your handbag just like your Mum did. Love and hugs, Heather xxxx

  5. A lovely tribute to your dear Mum Susie. x

  6. so sorry for your loss, hope you get through this time of grief
    your mum sounds like a wonderful woman
    thanx for sharing

  7. Sue, I am very sorry for your loss! It does sounds like she was an incredible woman.

  8. Lovely tribute for a wonderful woman. Please accept my condolences.

  9. Sweet Sue, I'm so terribly sad to hear that your beautiful Mum has passed away...

    With you in grief,

    Sherri XOXOX

  10. Lovely tribute, so kind of you to share.

  11. My heart goes out to you and your family, sending warm thoughts your way, thank you for sharing her with us as you have! She seems to have been an amazing woman.

  12. Your mum had a beautiful smile; thank you for sharing it with us.

    Big hugs & much love.

  13. condolences to you all and thank you when I lost my mum in August and your heart felt words. hugs all around

  14. Thoughts & prayers are with you & your family at this hard time, Sue..

  15. My condolences on the loss of your mother. The old photos are truly beautiful and wonderful keepsakes.

  16. Thoughts and prayers for your family during this difficult time.